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Who Controls Your Tongue?

We’re glad to offer you a guest post written by Charlotte Ebaugh, our Director of Children’s Ministries at Surfside Church. Charlotte has been with us for about a year now. She is married and has two children (a boy and a girl). She loves Jesus and finding ways to help children and families connect with God. If you have children 11 and under, or if you find this post helpful to you, she’d be happy to hear form you: cebaugh@surfsideyouth.org.

The tongue has the power to encourage someone & make a positive and everlasting impact on their life.  But, do you realize that the tongue also has the power to cause pain, discouragement & can destroy? WOW!!

Lately I’ve been learning about the power of my words, because not only do I need to be reminded of how powerful/impactful my tongue and words are to others, but I also want to be a living example of how Christ can change us!  We can resist ourselves and supernaturally do things through Him, because it is He who strengthens us and can make all things possible…even taming the tongue!

I’ll be the first to admit that I’ve hurt people with things I say, but my hope is that I will always be “quick to listen & slow to speak” (James 1:19) and that my words would always be encouraging, uplifting, kind, and filled with the love of Christ.

Through much reflection, I’ve realized that I struggle with taming my tongue for 2 different reasons:

1- If I am tired or hungry. I can easily become irritable when I’ve not eaten or haven’t had enough sleep.  Does this ever happen to you?  How do we get past being irritable and instead respond to others with love & kindness… even in the most difficult of times?  Let’s reflect for a moment on the book of Proverbs (12:18) where Solomon reminds us of this:

“The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.”

Even in the moments of irritability or difficult circumstances, we can recognize that we can choose to either be reckless with our words and cause pain…OR…we can choose to set aside what we’re dealing with and think of others and the opportunity to bring healing to those around us with encouraging & loving words.

2-  When I respond based on my emotions or what I’m feeling in the moment.  As I have become older & hopefully a little wiser, I’ve realized that I can’t always trust my feelings or emotions.  I’m a woman and, because of hormones, sometimes everything around me can be perfectly fine, but because of what’s going on inside of me, I can be sad, overwhelmed, frustrated, etc.  This is an ongoing journey for me as I desire to always speak encouraging words to everyone in my life…my husband, my children, my extended family, my friends, & the children I have been called to minister to.  I recognize the power of words and how those words can impact someone in such a beautiful way and negative/discouraging words can cause suffering & destruction…and even impact them for life.

Do you struggle with your tongue, speaking words to others that you later regret?  I can tell you that there is hope and a promise in Christ Jesus. He can help you with any struggles you may be having…just ask Him.  I have asked & I know He is with me on my journey and helping me along the way.

My prayer is that I will be the woman Solomon describes in Proverbs 31:26… “She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue.”   

May others always speak to you with the greatest love and kindness!

Abundant Blessings,

Charlotte Ebaugh

Our New BeHere Sundays!

Hey There!

If you’re keeping up with our latest posts, you know that we’ve been rolling out what our Youth Ministry will look like this year.

Today we’d like to introduce you to our Sunday night programing for this year. We call Sunday night events our BeHere events because it’s meant to be (most of the time) the place where our youth can invite their friends to come for the first time. These BeHere will have two main schedules: A regular schedule, which will be throughout most of the year; And an YOUTH ALPHA schedule, which will happen for 8 weeks in the spring. Here’s a brief description of both:

Regular Schedule: During our regular schedule, Sunday nights will mostly be split into Outreach Events, Small Group and Large Group outings, Special Seasonal Events (Holidays, Pumpkin Patch, etc.), and ORANGE XP’s. The first three are self explanatory. And the last one is part of our ORANGE curriculum. XP stands for Experience. Every series we teach on Sunday mornings has an XP component so that our youth can learn from experiences and not just talk. As you might have realized already, these are events that are much more conducive to new youth. They’re the place we want our youth to feel confortable inviting their friends.

YOUTH ALPHA Schedule: How many of us would like to share our faith with friends, family, neighbors, but don’t know how? Some of us fear being too pushy in conversations and don’t want to lose friends. Some of us are simply shy and wouldn’t even know how to begin a faith conversation. YOUTH ALPHA is a safe place where our youth will be encouraged to invite friends to an 8 week Sunday night program, filled with games, music, and small group discussions where they can ask all the questions about faith that they’ve always wanted to ask, but never knew how and where. We will dedicate a post to explain more about YOUTH ALPHA.

Our hope is that as you learn about our youth ministry and what we have to look forward to, that you will get excited about it and talk to your kids about being a part of our group on a consistent basis. Also feel free to spread the word to neighbors and friends as the new school years begins. The more the merrier!


Paulo Lopes

Youth Ministry Team